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Over the course of the past couple of weeks, I went traveling with my husband: first to visit family in London, then to Vienna to retrace the footsteps of my husband’s grandmother before she immigrated to the U.S., then to Croatia for a bicycling adventure, and then unexpectedly to Venice

Julie Field, Retired District Court Judge, Co-founder of The Consilium Institute. You, see, it’s not just about the X’s and O’s. “[Coaching] sure ain’t about drawing up (bleeping) plays. It’s about building relationships and instilling belief.” Michael Malone Denver Nuggets Coach Coach Malone is right. Technical knowledge can only get

Although I’d been practicing family law for twenty-three years, I first represented a party in a same-sex divorce in October of 2009. Difficult though it may now seem to believe, gay marriage was not legal in Massachusetts until the 2003 landmark decision of Goodridge v. Department of Public Health, in

Back when I was in law school, I found myself in search of a new apartment. This was long before Facebook, Instagram, or other social media platforms existed where people could connect over shared interests and needs, so my search began by scouring local classified ads in newspapers. I believe

The following blog post was inspired by psychotherapist Oona Metz, who has reviewed it and approved its publication. On April 6th, WBUR’s Cognoscenti published psychotherapist Oona Metz’s article entitled “Why don’t we talk- really talk- about divorce?”    In her article, Oona didn’t shy away from asking a painful question and suggesting

After watching The Extraordinary Attorney Woo, a South Korean Netflix series, I asked my husband and three adult children if they would watch the first episode and then write me a paragraph about their immediate impressions. I was curious to know what each of them would think, realizing they were

One of the great gifts I receive from writing my blogs is the pleasure of receiving feedback from readers.   Last month’s Costa Rica Lessons Learned #4, The Importance of Having a Guide When You’re in Unfamiliar Territory, was no exception. My neighbor Tim, who is thoughtful, a pre-college educator and

As families change and grow, so too do the rhythms of their interactions. Over the course of many years’ experience in helping families move from the rupture of divorce to the challenge of restructuring, I’ve seen many people create beautiful, meaningful, new traditions that enhance their lives in ways which

When we listen, what do we hear?  As we hiked through the jungle, our guide would often stop when he heard sounds that he wanted us to notice.  To my ear, they initially sounded like pleasant background music, or sometimes a not-so-pleasant cacophony, but I couldn’t have told you more