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Photo of my Mom, Gertrude M. Webb, in Iceland – circa 2004 Long before America Ferrara made her iconic 2023 Barbie speech about women’s inability to ever “get it right”, the 1991 book, “Be An Outrageous Older Woman”, by Ruth Harriet Jacobs, a gerontologist at the Wellesley College Center for

Recently at a photography exhibit, I was gob smacked by Los Angeles photographer Corinne Cobabe’s portfolio Perfect is Not a Word. Her accompanying artist’s statement was “Nice big home. Nice cars. Nice things. Big family. Very religious. High standards. Arguments. Substances. Lots of money. Then none. Eventually, a divorce. Leaving

Recently I had the opportunity to visit the inspiring Corning Museum of Glass. However, my visit coincided with a previous commitment that was made to be interviewed on Judy Heft’s podcast.   So… I decided to arrive early at the museum and see if I could scout out an unobtrusive yet

Photo by Tim Goedhart on Unsplash Note: This blog is an excerpt from Judge’s Field’s upcoming book:Bold Judging: Creating Families Who Are Self-Governing After Divorce©Julie Field and The Consilium Institute. All rights reserved. Hon. Julie Kunce Field (ret.) Co-Founder, the Consilium Institute As judges, we take on other people’s pain in the most

On a personal level, it’s the overwhelm.  The sense that you are out of your depth. Airdropped into a land of chaos. With little to no direction about how to move forward. What a divorce process looks like depends upon who is looking.  For someone at the outset of that

I recently listened to Maggie Smith read her latest book, You Could Make This Place Beautiful. I was moved by the magnificence of her poetic voice as she unraveled the pain of her divorce and after-marriage, during which she candidly acknowledged  “I don’t have access to the whole picture- only

Earlier this week I listened to Ezra Klein’s podcast interview of Marilynne Robinson, whom I’d never heard speak before. Initially, to my ear her voice sounded almost childlike, timid while also being sort of awestruck. Her ideas were firm and grounded, yet light and graceful.  I found her to be

I have a grandnephew turning three years old today.  Being born on Valentine’s Day seems special, but the “holiday-ness” of his birthday seems even more striking knowing that his father, my nephew Joey, is a “Leap Year baby”.  As I thought about this, I wondered whether Joey’s perspective on birthdays

About a month ago, my youngest daughter asked me if I’d like to go away with her for a couple of days after Thanksgiving. Having had some challenging conversations and disagreements during the past few months, we both decided it would be a good opportunity to go somewhere and just